LIFE

… and once again, SHE travelled on a voyage of no return.

What age are we in? Have we really progressed? Do people really understand the amount of mental compression we can cause others?

I am deeply grieved to have lost a close associate, who was merely 31-year-old, to depression and mental distress. Apart from her so-called the family of ‘in-laws’; yes, I would blame the lady too, for allowing herself to go through the agony.

Why is it that we place our life in hands of ‘naseeb’ aka ‘destiny’, and take in all that comes our way? Can we or rather don’t we know, how to take charge of our lives?

The dear deceased woman, may her soul rest in peace finally, was a postgraduate and worked in a top-notch company in a senior position. She was moderately healthy which kind of created complications in conceiving. The sheer pressure from just one year of being married to have a child made her life miserable. She was repetitively pin-pointed at what she consumed, compelled to have a certain style of dressing as well as coerced to part of her salary to meet the household needs. Her phone would be regularly scrutinized to ensure she did not tête-à-tête with guys. Social interactions too were not encouraged.

Aren’t we living in a century where we swipe right to find a perfect match? Then, what would you call this behaviour and the era the family lives in?

I also feel livid at this young lady. She was a well-qualified person, working at such a respectable position and financially super independent. Why did she not leave all this behind and stay separate to live life on her own terms? Just left it all to fate and surrendered to the injustice done to her time and again. Only because the scars of her pain were not visible, could not the parents bring her back home? Could they, being the girl’s parents not interfere in her marital discords?

Why do we girls need a man to validate our completeness? Why aren’t we taught to love ourselves first and put the needs of the family later? Why do we wait for a girl to sacrifice her life in order to realize that these age-old traditions need to change? Not having a kid is okay, you surely can adopt one! There are so many abandoned by their respective set of parents. These children need a family to love them anyway.

What must have this 31-year-old soul felt on departing her body? A ‘Thank-You’ to God to end her miseries? Or an ‘I am Sorry’ to her parents?

Through this small piece, I just want all the females reading this to know that – you are very precious to your parents. Don’t ever hesitate to speak your heart out to them. Don’t be broken when a worthless guy does not value your presence or importance. You, my dear girl, have the power to achieve anything you want, whether it’s managing a house or a big company, or being its CEO.

Whenever you are in mental pain, parents are the best people to speak to. If you don’t share a great rapport with them, don’t ever shy away to take professional help. God has sent each of us on this earth to make a difference in someone’s life, find a purpose and go ahead fulfilling it.

To the men reading this, all I can say is that – being a woman, isn’t easy. Respect, love and pamper the girls be it your: mother, sister, girlfriend, niece, wife or daughter. Be supportive and appreciative of their needs. You may not be able to help them in their day-to-day chores, but one gesture of ‘YES, I do care for you and love you for who you are!’ is enough for the girl to surpass any storm of her life.

Boys and Girls, be happy and live the life you have.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”
Steve Jobs