Each day I get up to see: a set of school friends partying in the town’s hippest discotheque, graduation friends sharing candid shots & snippets of their fancy fairy tale wedding, my ex-students uploading babymoon snaps & few other friends enjoying vacations at some exotic locations.
Where do I get these details from?
Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and WhatsApp!
These social media platforms are nothing but ‘gaam-ni-panchat’, a Gujju definition for ‘Facebook’ & ‘Instagram’.
One catches a glimpse of not just their friends but also of celebrities living their life to the fullest. Where they party, where they casually hang-out, clothes and brands they wear, cuisines they try and what not!
Knowingly or unknowingly these updates from each person on our FB, WhatsApp status & Insta page, fills a void in our lives. We start comparing ourselves to them. We start looking up to them. We secretly desire to be like them.
A friend of mine, was prone to this. A mom to a wonderful kid, she followed so many mom bloggers through these sites, and as a result, felt herself to be an incompetent mother. She constantly felt the need to do something extra for her kid. A sheer pressure that she could not take her kid to an X class mentioned by some mom blogger or use a Y method to raise her kid, often bogged her down. Knowing her all my life and observing her since she got preggers, all I can say is no-one would be better mom to her angel, then yummy-mummy already is.
I ain’t saying these social media platforms are a waste of our time, but as per various studies conducted across the globe, out of every 10 people 7 are dissatisfied of their life after comparing it with others. These handles only project a ‘I am so happy’ version of themselves.
On the flip side, I also agree that they provide useful information to many but at what cost? Also, I am not against any of these platforms or bloggers, but just imagine how shallow they make us feel. They induce a sense of ‘I wish I had that or I wish I was more like him/her’.
Where are we heading to? In this so-called fake world, where everything except death is temporary; what are we chasing? Happiness or self-inflicted pain? Pain of left-out, pain of not fitting in with the world, pain of missing out if not on these social scorecards.
Ample number of times we have come across quotes like: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt; “When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.” Lao Tzu; “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” Tim Hiller. In spite of that, we keep equating our lifestyles to them.
The excessive use of this internet community has made us so redundant. Our creativity too is hampered. Using ‘Googalai-namah’, we find multiple solutions for our day-to-day problems, in just matter of seconds. Gone are the days when we would call our grandmothers or grandfathers for their ‘garelu nuskas’.
Through this post, I want my readers to not feel left out watching other people enjoying life, nor I want them to constantly keep evaluating what they own in correlation to others.
We all have different time-zones. Our time to shine may be someone else’s time to be dull. Don’t get carried away contemplating another people’s life.
The minute you start measuring your life to that which your friends showcase on social media, is the time you are falling in the depression zone! Be aware and use these media wisely, or soon you will find yourself in deep lost zone.